Suffering is a real part of life. We all suffer through losses and unrealized dreams and unmet expectations. Some of us suffer through abuses, addictions, failed relationships, broken promises, unfathomable disappointments. And, it’s not always true that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Long term suffering can also accompany difficult and traumatic life events….
It’s the hardest job ever. It’s the best job ever. It’s the most humbling job ever. Because The Relationship is Paramount. Vital. All Important. For real, I would literally die for these people. And it is not an *accomplishment* because they are Good People. Because that is up to them, not me. It is an…
Gracing your life with what feeds YOUR soul=Good Parenting Young Mom self-care for me=I didn’t become a regular exerciser until my youngest was 5 years old. I made good meals AND ate too much of that goodness. I seldom went to bed at the same time, many times falling asleep on the couch (came in…
We TEACH others HOW to treat us… *Saying No when that is how you genuinely feel *Politely and Self-Confidently Enforcing No when others try to Still Get Us To Say Yes, even though we have politely and self-confidently said No *TRUSTING our No… AND our Yes *Judiciously sharing information with new acquaintances, trusting more and…
Yes!!! and…well, um, I think FLEXIBLE Consistency might be EVEN better! But first…Consistency. Gotta gotta GOTTA help your kids know that you/their world/consequences are predictable. Why is that imperative? Because kids need safety, kids need security, kids need authority and gently firm structure. And imagine: If, whilst we were teaching these fine little people their…
Every thought does NOT deserve our attention or focus. Every thought is NOT true. IF we entertain EVERY thought, we sabotage our very efforts to progress and become more healthy and wise. Challenge thoughts that cause SHAME, unnecessary Guilt, INSECURITY, self-DOUBT, Malice towards others. Because it pops into your head or BECAUSE SOMEONE SAYS IT,…
**Mistakes are THE way of learning that has the most sticking POWER. Consequences are TEACHERS. **GUILT is okay. It tells me I DID a wrong/hurtful/dangerous thing. And there is a choice to not do it again. **SHAME is not okay. It tells me I AM a failure/mistake/bad person. **GRACE travels further down the road to…
Parents of TEENS: Levels of DOPAMINE, a neurotransmitter that enhances pleasure, INCREASES during adolescence…more than at ANY other time of life. WHICH MEANS: Hello! Significant increase in SENSATION-SEEKING and RISK-TAKING behaviors. WITH very little help from the STILL developing PreFrontal Cortex (ya know, the part of the amazing brain that INHIBITS risk-taking behavior, sees around…
Because You are SMART… can I not be? Because You are BEAUTIFUL… can I not be? Because You are SUCCESSFUL… can I not be? My SELF messages are ULTRA and SUPER meaningful. Really meaningful. If I choose to look around and see ONLY other’s beauty, intelligence and success, I will suffer. GREATLY. This is very…